Thing's I've Learned Doing Reading's

1. If you are giving advice, you should be following it.

2. Even if you can endure long periods of emotional turmoil, should you really do it in the name of making another better? I mean isn’t it up to them to want a more stable and fulfilling emotional connection?

 3. We can all preach unconditional love, but we can’t all give and receive it in a manner that is healthy for all.

4. Being a martyr is stupid. We all want to be that person who helps others, but when it costs us our emotional boundaries...Well, who is really the fool?

 5. No matter how much you care and love someone, you can’t give them personal value or self-esteem. Honestly, we can reflect back to them what we see, but they have to do the work that is needed to see why we cared in the first place.

 6. Love is never supposed to hurt. If loving someone makes your heart ache more than soar, we need to talk. I’ve been there and done this --stupidly, I might add.

 7. It’s ok to encourage others, but it’s not ok to enable them to continue in being powerless. Sometimes in trying to help others we speak so much or so strong, but we forget that it is up to them to speak and reach out for themselves. We can’t fight their fight, we can only stand ringside when they are ready.

 8. It’s okay to cry and let go. Some people can mean the world to us, but it isn’t in either of our best interest to continue down a path that won’t give growth to either.

 9. When someone brings you to the place you feel you can’t be without them, it’s time to check your karmatic connection. All the people I have been absolutely driven for have been in my soul circle. We have a karmatic bond that needs to be worked through. Soul mates are not about being the “one” as much as being the one who makes you grow.

10. Once you realize this is just a moment in time, you should enjoy every “moment” you can. Living in the present is a gift we should all cherish. Wanting a future where you don’t belong is nothing more than a burden. And the past is just that, not worth even going into.